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I did too...
To start Cozy Space with Cherry, I had to step out of my comfort zone, and not gonna lie, it took me a while. Not because I didn’t want to, but because I kept second-guessing myself and my creative abilities. There was so much noise in my head, telling me I wasn’t a “big shot” writer, so why even start blogging? I’m not an expert or a mental health coach why would anyone want to hear my thoughts or opinions about the highs and lows of life? Or to be advised by me.
I know, I know it sounds sad. But honestly, the battles within are the hardest.
Eventually, I had to shut that noise down by reminding myself that I am enough. That my ultimate goal for this cozy space wasn’t to be seen as a guru or an expert. The goal was (and still is) growth, building a community that prioritizes healing, learning, and unlearning, and creating a space that helps people feel heard, loved, and seen.
And lastly, I had to sit with the uncomfortable feeling of being okay if my work doesn’t speak to everyone. You know why? Because that doesn’t take away from the fact that I’m a creative being, or that I have a positive impact on people's lives. I know my abilities. I know my purpose, my vision, and my goals.
By sharing this story with you, I want you to know that you're not alone. And more importantly, it’s possible to free yourself from self-doubt.
One of the best things you can do for yourself is change the negative mental narrative of who you are. Maybe you grew up thinking you don’t deserve much, that you're not allowed to dream big, have more, or succeed. Friend, it's about time you change that story!!
Let me affirm you today: You are enough. You deserve all the good things life has to offer, even more than you can imagine. You belong in those great spaces you're already in or dreaming of stepping into. I know it might feel hard at first, but honeeey, say it until you believe it. Speak amazing things about your life. What you say to yourself matters. How you feel about yourself matters. Make that narrative serve you so that, no matter how much people want to break you, you are firm in your true, authentic self.
Just do it. I mean it, that project, that career move, the dream, the blog, the YouTube channel, whatever it is you’ve been wanting to start, DO IT!! Do it scared. Do it afraid. Stop telling yourself you're waiting for the right time or for things to align. The truth is, the right time never really comes. And another thing, stop being afraid of failing. I know it’s scary. I know the disappointment stings. But please remember, failing doesn't mean you're useless. It doesn't mean you've failed yourself. We all fail sometimes it’s part of the journey. What matters is what you do after. Feel sad for a little while if you need to, then pick yourself up, learn from it, and come back stronger.
Because guess what? You are still worthy, even after failing.
Do you have your goals set? You need to recognize your vision and purpose for the things you want to pursue. Set goals that speak to you. Not goals influenced by societal standards. Make them realistic and achieve them at your own pace with your own strategies. When you focus on your goals and your purpose, it becomes easier to stop comparing your life to someone else’s. It keeps you grounded in who you are and what you want to achieve.
Lastly, can you just give yourself a break? You’re not superhuman. You’re not a machine. Sometimes you’ll fail, but you’ll also succeed. There will be low moments, sure, but take a second to look at how far you’ve come. The wins, the little moments of success, they matter. They deserve to be celebrated. You deserve to be celebrated. Don’t burn yourself out trying to chase perfection. It doesn’t exist. Take things slow but steady. And if you feel like you need rest? That’s okay. Rest. What others are doing while you take a break? That’s none of your business. Honestly, I get so pissed off by that mindset of “Why are you resting while others are doing ten times better?” Since when did we start using someone else’s life map to guide our own?
That mindset needs to stop!!
Let them go ahead and do fifty times better, that’s fine. Your competition is not with them. It’s with you. Take that break if you need it. Go back to the drawing board. Reconnect with who you are, what you can do, and do what works for you.
How do you remind yourself that you’re enough, even when self-doubt creeps in?
I’d love to hear from you.
Thanks a bunch for sticking around.
See you next time, bye!🤎