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How many times have you replayed a conversation in your head the moment you got home, wishing you’d said things differently, or wondering if you made sense at all? How many times have you stopped wearing that outfit, not because you didn’t love it, but because you were worried about what people might say about you? How many events have you skipped, not because you didn’t want to go, but because you were afraid of being labeled or misunderstood? How many chances have you let pass you just to avoid looking “too much” or “too different”
Listen, I’m not here to judge. Trust me, been there, done that.
I know how crazy it feels when you’re constantly living under other people’s opinions, walking on eggshells around their opinions of you. It’s like you can’t fully show up for yourself without first asking, “What will they think?”
It’s exhausting. And honestly, it’s time to free yourself from that cage.
You deserve to be understood yes, but even better, you deserve to be you, fully and unapologetically.
You need to remember that you also misunderstand others and situations, and that’s okay. It’s simply part of being human. We all see life through our own perspective, shaped by our experiences, moods, fears, and hopes. That means two people can hear the same thing and walk away with completely different meanings. So don't dwell on the thought of whether they'll misunderstand you or not. If they do, don't take it personally. Chances are, you’ve done the same without even knowing it. The reality is that we all have different perspectives, and sometimes, those perspectives don’t line up. And that’s normal.
They don’t have enough information about you, so of course they’ll misunderstand you. I know, this isn't what you wanted to hear at all but it's the truth! Most people are only seeing a small part of your story. They haven’t walked in your shoes. They haven’t seen the reasons behind your choices, the healing behind your silence, or the growth behind your smile. When they make assumptions, it’s usually not about you. It’s about the little puzzle piece they’ve seen, and they're trying to understand a full picture but they only have a corner of it. Funny, right?
What they say, or might say, about you is none of your business. You know why? Because you can’t control how people think. You could explain yourself perfectly, show up with the best intentions, and still be misunderstood. People usually filter everything through their own fears, values, and life experiences. That means their opinions are more about them than they are about you. Trying to manage or predict what they’ll think is a losing game and a tiring one, too!
Lastly, you know your truth, and that’s all that really matters. At the end of the day, you’re the one who lives with your choices, your values, and your growth. You know the full story, the parts you’ve healed, the ones you’re still working on, and the reasons behind the way you show up. When you stick to your truth, you stop needing external validation. You stop chasing approval. You start being okay with being misunderstood. And you finally start living in peace, with yourself.
I know it’s hard, because you don’t want people to carry a perception of your identity that’s not really you. It feels unfair when who you are gets lost in translation. But the truth is, your worth isn’t determined by how accurately others see you. How you see yourself is all that matters. PERIOD!!
What helps you break free from worrying about what others think?
I’d love to hear from you.
Thanks a bunch for sticking around.
See you next time, bye!🤎
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