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Yes, today I'm here to rant.
I don’t like the fact that we’ve been conditioned to believe success, or even just good things in life, only come after intense struggle. That it has to be a painful journey, filled with endless hustle, sacrifices, and fighting tooth and nail just to earn them. As someone who's healing from this mindset, let me tell you straight up it’s total BS. BLOOD, SWEAT, and TEARS are not the only currencies for the good things in life.
You know what’s even worse? Some people go as far as shaming others and looking down on them, just because they didn’t have to suffer the same way to get where they are. As if struggle somehow makes their journey more valid or worthy. It got me thinking, do they really believe that the only way they deserve success, love, or any good thing in life is if they earn it through blood, sweat, tears, and emotional scars? Honey… you need to heal.
Some have even dragged this mindset into relationships and jobs. Suddenly, suffering in a relationship is seen as a sign of resilience, it's like pain is what builds a stronger bond. And don’t even think about quitting that toxic workplace where you're overworked, underpaid, burnt out, and maybe even getting sick. The moment you choose peace over stress, they start calling you lazy or weak. Since when did the bar of choosing yourself and wanting better get sooooo low!!
I’ve even seen people fighting over who had the worst childhood, OMG. Instead of using their stories to encourage someone or show that it does get better, they’re busy comparing scars, creating emotional KPIs for who suffered the most. It’s honestly so sad. People forget that their past isn’t their identity. It’s a part of the story, not the whole book. At some point, you have to decide, will it make you or break you?
At the end of the day, we really need to heal from this crazy mindset of glorifying suffering. Hating on people who seem to have it easier won’t make our lives any better, and it definitely won’t change theirs. Let’s stay focused on what actually matters: our goals, our peace, and our growth. And from there, we get to choose, do we want the work hard way, or do we want the work smart way? Either way, let it be from a place of love, not pain.
I’ll leave you with something to think about: there’s no special reward for struggling your way to the top. At the end of the day, we all want better lifestyles, peace of mind, and a sense of fulfillment. So if you happen to get there with less struggle, good for you. And if your path is a little rougher, don’t romanticize it. Don’t glorify the pain. Just want better because you deserve better!! PS, don't compromise your value system.
Have you ever felt guilty for wanting an easier path?
I’d love to hear from you.
Thanks a bunch for sticking around.
See you next time, bye!🤎