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In the many years I’ve been in this lively, chaotic, and often ridiculous world of ours (nope, I’m not that old 'wink wink'), there’s one thing I’ve noticed over and over again: some people make it their mission to mess with your energy. It’s like, if they’re not feeling okay, they’ll make damn sure you’re not either. Whether it’s intentional or not, the result is the same, you walk away feeling drained and agitated.
Sometimes they’re not even doing anything “wrong" they are just out here projecting their chaos, and while it might have nothing to do with you, it still hurts. Their energy is loud, triggering, and suddenly… you’re not okay!!
So bestie, are you protecting your peace, or are you letting every storm shake you?
If you don't know how, you can start here, Letting go...
🌼Letting Go of Expectations.
Uuuf. This one? It stings a little.
Most of the time, it’s not people who disappoint us, it’s our expectations of them. We expect them to understand us, love us the way we love them, show up the way we’d show up. And when they don’t, we get disappointed. But here’s the hard truth: people aren’t mind readers, and they’re allowed to be who they are, even if that doesn’t match who we hoped they’d be.
I know, I know, you might be asking yourself then does it mean I just let them treat me less than I deserve because they are different? Nope! Letting go of expectations doesn’t mean lowering your standards. It means releasing the tight grip on how things should look and learning to accept what is. When you stop expecting people to fill roles they never signed up for, you stop handing them the power to ruin your day.
🌼Letting Go of Comparison.
Okay hear me out, comparison will drain you dry. One minute you’re feeling fine, the next you’re deep in someone else’s highlight reel wondering why your life doesn’t look like that.
But guess what? Peace and comparison cannot coexist. They just can’t!! Your path is yours for a reason. And your journey is not meant to look like anyone else’s.
Letting go of comparison means coming back to yourself. It means choosing contentment over chasing someone else’s version of “enough.” And the more you stay in your lane and focus on your own growth and purpose, the less time you have to measure yourself against anyone else.
🌼Letting Go of People and Places That Are Toxic.
Let’s talk about this one without sugarcoating it. If it costs you your peace, it’s too expensive. Period!
Sometimes we hold on to people out of loyalty, history, or the fear of being alone. Sometimes we stay in places, jobs, homes, and routines, that no longer serve us. We are often told to fight for things and people that we love, no matter the cost. We need to be for real, staying somewhere that constantly unsettles your soul? That’s not love. That’s not strength.
That’s self-abandonment. Letting go sometimes means the quiet decision to stop showing up where you’re not respected. To stop giving endless chances. To choose you. Peace begins where your boundaries are respected.
🌼Letting Go of the Need to Prove Yourself.
You don’t have to prove your worth. You don’t have to over-explain your choices. You don’t need to do the most just to feel seen.
You are already enough!!
So many of us carry this hidden pressure, to prove we’re good enough, smart enough, capable enough. We overwork and overgive. But real peace comes when you know you’re worthy, even when no one is clapping. Even when no one notices. Letting go of the need to prove yourself is a love letter to yourself. It says, I’m allowed to be me without creating a performance, I mean, your life isn't a theatre club!!
🌼Letting Go of the Need to Be the Savior.
This one’s especially for the nurturers, the fixers, the “strong ones.”
It’s not your job to rescue people. Listen, It’s not your responsibility to carry what others refuse to heal.
We often find ourselves confusing love with saving. But constantly jumping in to fix things, to carry other people’s burdens, to hold everyone together, you're going to get serious burnout. Letting go of this need doesn’t make you selfish. It means you’re learning the difference between supporting someone and losing yourself in the process. Allow them to walk their path and grow. You need to remember you can't always be the painkiller to other people's headaches!!
I also have to remind you that, protecting your peace isn’t only about boundaries, or distancing yourself from chaos around you. It’s also about turning inward and facing the chaos within. Because if your inner world is loud, full of chaos, and unhealed wounds, you’ll always find something or someone to blame for the unrest. You’ll keep jumping from trigger to trigger, thinking it’s the world that needs fixing.
Peace has to come from within...
What does peace look and feel like for you?
I’d love to hear from you.
Thanks a bunch for sticking around.
See you next time, bye!🤎