Commitment issues: But with yourself!!

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There's something kind of magical about making new promises to yourself. You know that moment you’re all serious, writing them down like you’re signing an important contract with your soul. “I’m gonna start jogging again.” “I’m quitting this addiction.” “I’ll finally start saving and investing.” “Therapy sessions? Booked.” And for my fellow bloggers: “This time, I’m staying consistent.” You close that notebook with a sense of triumph. Some of us even whisper a prayer.

But then comes the real test, actually doing the thing. Suddenly, the vibe shifts. “uuum, I feel okay. I’ll jog tomorrow.” “Just one more glass won’t hurt.” “It’s not even the end of the week, I’ll start saving next month.” Slowly, excuses slide in, laziness follows, and then good old procrastination walks through the door. And eventually you don't do it at all. Then you start questioning everything. “Am I really committed?” “Why do I keep doing this?” “What’s the point?” It’s not just about the broken promise anymore it starts to feel like you’ve broken trust with your own damn self.

You also have to be realistic with the goals you set for yourself.  Sis, don’t go writing “I’ll jog 10km every morning” when you currently get tired walking to the kitchen. Be for real. Start with goals that make sense for you. It’s not about impressing anyone, it’s about progress. Write promises that fit your life, your energy, and your current situation. Be kind, not delusional.

Big dreams are great. But they need small actions to stand on. Break it down. If your goal is to read more, maybe start with 5 pages a day, not finishing the whole book in one sitting, then ghosting it for 6 months. If it's saving money, start small. Daily little wins stack up big time! Nothing will change if you don’t move. At some point, you have to get out of your head and just start. Even if it's messy or you feel unsure, just do something. Action creates momentum.

Also, don't obsess over how much is left. Look back. Celebrate how you’ve shown up, even on the slow days. Trust me, you’ve done more than you think. Progress doesn’t always scream, it whispers. And you gotta learn to hear it. Got out of bed and drank water today? Win. Showed up for therapy? Win. Choose to walk instead of scroll? Win. Those little things matter. Clap for yourself. You’re showing up. That’s huge.

Finally,  let’s stop getting high off making new promises. Real talk, some of us are addicted to that fresh start feeling. We jump from one shiny new goal to the next before we even finish the last one, just chasing that "I’m doing something with my life" feeling. But commitment isn’t about chasing the rush, it’s about showing up, even when it gets boring or hard or slow.

And hey, be kind to yourself. You’re not a machine. You don’t need to be productive 24/7. Take your time. Breathe. It’s okay if it feels tough. It’s okay if it’s taking longer than you expected. Just remember, this journey, this effort, this sacrifice? It’s all for you. You’re not doing this to prove anything to anyone. You’re doing it because you matter. And that’s enough.

So the next time you make a promise to yourself, don’t just make it, honor it.

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