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Ever met someone who just lives for romance? Like, they always have a boo. They can’t survive two weeks without texting someone “good morning baby.”
Maybe that someone is you?
Let’s talk about it. While love is beautiful, the heart-fluttering, soft music in the background, staring at your phone like a teenager kind of beautiful, it’s also one of those things that can quietly turn into an addiction. Yep, being high on love is a thing! And no, I don’t mean the healthy butterflies or the cute dates. I’m talking about when romance becomes your whole identity, and you forget you’re actually a full human being outside of a relationship.
It starts off simple. You get a little crush here, you’re texting non-stop, you’re suddenly reorganizing your week around them. Next thing you know, you haven’t had a solo Friday night in months. You skip your hobbies, your friends barely see you, and every time you feel low, you immediately think, “I need someone.”
Being high on love means you chase the feeling of romance the way some people chase caffeine. You want that rush. You want that validation. And every time things don’t work out, you’re not thinking, “Maybe I need a break,” you’re already downloading the apps again, swiping for your next hit.
And listen, I'm not here to judge you, we’ve all had moments where being in love feels like the only thing that matters in life. But if your self-worth starts depending on how fast someone texts back, it’s time to pause.
Most of us don't know how to enjoy our own company. Growing up, we saw movies where “the one” solves everything. Even those cartoons we watched as kids made it seem like life officially begins after you meet Prince or Princess Charming.
So we start believing: “If I’m not in love, I’m not doing life right.”
It's also sad how being single is treated like a waiting room. Like you’re just killing time until your romantic partner shows up and makes your life meaningful. But spoiler alert, you’re already enough. You don’t need someone else to validate your existence.
Here's how you can know if you're high on romantic love;
- You feel restless or “empty” when you’re not texting or dating someone.
- You hop from relationship to relationship with barely any time in between.
- You’ve cancelled on friends because you got “plans” (a.k.a last-minute date plans).
- You don’t remember the last time you did something just for you!
I’m not here to tell you to become a monk and go meditate in the mountains (unless you want to, in which case, power to you). I’m saying, what if you tried making yourself the main character for a bit?
Romantic love can be amazing, but self-love is what holds you down when the world feels like it's against you. It’s what keeps you steady when your phone is dry or when that “situationship” goes sideways. Self-love doesn’t ghost you. It doesn’t breadcrumb you. It’s always there.
Imagine learning a new hobby just because it makes you happy, or taking yourself out for dinner without feeling awkward. Imagine feeling just as excited about Friday nights alone as you would with a date. That right there is true freedom!
There’s nothing wrong with loving love. But when it becomes your personality trait, your escape, or your source of self-worth, it can leave you feeling emptier than before. The truth is, you can love romance without losing yourself in it. You can be single and thriving. You can take a break from chasing love and still have a soft, happy, and thriving life.
Next time you feel that itch to text an ex or swipe yourself out of boredom, maybe check in with yourself first, what are you missing? How can you give yourself what you're missing? Book that solo brunch or trip. Take a nap. Journal. Be your own soft place to land.
Because when you’re full of love for yourself, you won’t settle for anyone who gives you crumbs. You’ll want the full feast, and guess what? You’ll know you deserve it.
Trust me, You Deserve a Love Story With Yourself too!
Do you think society pressures us to always be in a relationship? How do you personally feel about that?
I’d love to hear from you.
Thanks a bunch for sticking around.
See you next time, bye!🤎