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Loving who you are right now as you work towards who you want to become is easier said than done. We all have that mental image of how great our future selves are supposed to be. It might be the creation of wealth, Financial freedom, excellent health, a stable family, fitness, them abs and glutes, great hair, traveling the world, a great career, or even a loving relationship that just feels right. But when you look at your reality honestly, it's just sad, you literally feel like you are in an alternate universe!! And even worse, you feel like that future is just so unattainable.
Maybe it feels hard to love yourself right now because the you right now isn't that pleasant in your eyes. Maybe you see yourself as lazy simply because you haven’t achieved everything you hoped for. Trust me, it's okay to feel uncomfortable in your current state. What matters is how you respond to the feeling( are you going to feel sorry for yourself and give up, or are you going to push through and work towards your goals?)
Sometimes, you just have to remind yourself that it's okay to just be where you are. Not everything has to be a rush to the next big thing. I know people say “be delulu, it’ll get you through,” but honestly, pretending everything’s perfect when it’s not doesn’t always help. It's better to start acknowledging the truth of where you are, even if it’s messy, confusing, or far from where you thought you’d be.
Lately, I’ve also been trying to appreciate small wins more. I mean, in a world obsessed with big reveals and overnight success, it’s so easy to overlook the tiny, steady efforts that no one actually knows about. But those little steps? They matter. A lot more than we give them credit for.
And maybe the hardest part is this, being kind to yourself even when you feel like you haven’t earned it. I’ve been learning not to beat myself up for how long everything’s taking or for not having it all figured out by now like seriously, who are we competing with? We need to chill out.
Bestie, let me plug you today, here are a few ways to be nicer to yourself:
You have to start talking to yourself like you would your best friend. If your bestie came to you crying about feeling behind, would you shame them or hug them and offer tea? Do the same for yourself. Turns out, speaking to yourself like you would a friend, with love and patience makes a big difference. That small shift in tone and attitude is actually healing.
Let go of the idea that there's one timeline for success. Life doesn't run on a single calendar. Just because someone else hit their goals earlier doesn't mean you're failing. BTW, this is a form of scarcity mentality!!
Celebrate small wins. Woke up early today? Finished a task you’ve been avoiding for weeks? That counts! Even getting out of bed when you didn’t feel like it is valid progress.
I can't stress this enough, give yourself permission to rest. To all my busy bees, listen, taking care of yourself and giving yourself rest is a must and no you're not lazy. Rest is part of the process. Period!
I know this might sound cliché, but take your time and focus on progress. Sure, you have a clear vision of the future you want, but don’t forget the journey and the person you become along the way matter just as much, if not more.
So, embrace the small wins, be kind to yourself, and trust the process. Growth isn’t about rushing to the finish line, it’s all about evolving, learning, and becoming stronger with each step.
Keep going darling, you’re getting there!
What's one kind thing you can say to yourself today?I’d love to hear from you.
Thanks a bunch for sticking around.See you next time, bye!🤎
See you next time, bye!🤎