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I was having a random conversation with some of the guys the other day, and I asked how 2025 has been like for them. You’d think I’d get the usual answers like it's been good, fine, busy, I'm grateful. Nope, everyone just sighed. One person said 2025 has been eye-opening. Another said they’d lost a part of themselves. Someone else said they’re just waiting for the year to end because it’s been too much. But the comment that really stuck with me was, "This is the year I realized I’m actually an adult. And it’s not just fun and games anymore.”
That one hit me deep. Because that’s exactly it! We all kind of blinked and realized Oh crap, this is it. The thing we used to rush toward ADULTHOOD is here. And it’s confusing and exhausting.
You think it’s going to be late nights, independence, ice cream, and cereal for dinner. But somehow it’s budgeting, overthinking, questioning your purpose, and trying not to cry while doing laundry. Oh, and not to forget CRASHING OUT.
And then comes the loneliness. Not the kind where you’re alone, you can be surrounded by people and still feel completely misunderstood. It’s that kind of isolation of realizing everyone’s fighting their own private battles, and you can’t quite explain yours in a way that makes sense. You neither have the words nor the strength to do so.
You look around and see your peers doing different things.
Some are buying houses.
Some are settling down.
Some are having babies.
Some are pursuing their careers.
Some are traveling and living their “best life.”
And then there’s you somewhere in between, half hopeful, and half confused, wondering if you’re on the right track.
This “in between” feeling is crazy, honestly. You’re not at rock bottom, but you’re definitely not thriving either. You’re just functioning and getting by. It’s like you're in a waiting room for a version of your life that hasn’t started yet.
You scroll through TikTok and IG and see everyone’s “big moves,” while you’re just trying to figure out who you are. Then the sad part, you start comparing timelines, and replaying choices that didn’t go as planned.
You know what really gets me?!
When we were kids, we couldn’t wait to grow up. We’d say, I just want to be an adult so no one can tell me what to do. Now that we’re here, it turns out that was a scam. Because the gag is, yes, no one tells you what to do, but no one helps you either!
What makes it harder is how fast everything keeps changing. The rules of success keep shifting. Even who you are feels blurry. One day, you feel confident, disciplined, happy, maybe even a little proud of how far you’ve come. Next, you’re doubting every decision you’ve ever made and wondering if you’re behind everyone else.
I think part of adulthood that no one really prepares you for is how much you’ll have to let go of who you used to be.
You lose old versions of yourself. The one who believed that good things always happen if you just work hard enough. The one who thought people stay the same, never changing. That’s what makes adulting so heavy sometimes, all them bills and responsibilities and the emotional labor of rebuilding yourself over and over again.
But maybe that’s what adulthood really is, learning to be okay with not having it all figured out. Maybe it’s about showing up anyway, even when everything feels lost and confusing. Finding small ways to have and protect your peace.
Because the truth is, we're all just trying. Growing up is all about losing and finding yourself, unlearning and learning. You gotta give yourself grace.
So bestie, if 2025 has been confusing, draining, wildly unpredictable, and crazy for you, you’re not alone.
We’re all just trying to survive the craziest hood ever ADULTHOOD!!
Thanks a bunch for sticking around.
See you next time, bye!🤎